The Ancestral Art of taking Responsibility for our Life and towards the World Around
Ho’oponopono is an ancestral tradition of the Hawaian people that is used to solve problems in life. But, it is yet more than that. It is a powerful tool for personal healing and for the healing of the people around us. As any other ancient practice, its great transformational power resides in its simpleness and its transcendental union with the Earth, the truth, the inherent human values, with logic, and with nature. According to this philosophy, when a harmful thought, memory, or “programming” appears in our life, it is a great opportunity to let it go, to clean it, to wipe it out, to transform it, to transmute it, and to thus evolve.
We are fully responsible for our life, and we accept and exercise such responsibility, since everything that is in it—just for the fact of its coming to be there—has been created by ourselves. It is not easy to take responsibility for what we say and do, but it is very hard to understand our responsibility in what other person being part of our life says and does. From the moment that we take on the whole responsibility for our life, all that we see, hear, taste, smell, touch, or experiment is part of our responsibility for the mere fact of being in it; that is to say, everything that we like or do not like, the violent acts, the economy, or any other event that we experience is there in our life to be healed. It is a matter of responsibility where the problem does not reside in the events themselves but in us, instead, and, in order to change them, it is us—you and me—who must actually change. In a world in which placing the blame on others is a standard situation, in which we always put the guilt of all our evils on external factors, it is difficult to assume our responsibility with facts, especially if we do not like them, if they are not in line with our own principles, values, and interests, or if they are not “easy” to take.
Ho’oponopono means to love ourselves; therefore if we want to improve our life, or if we want to be able to heal others, the right way is to first heal ourselves. In Ho’oponopono, love of oneself is the best way to improve oneself and, from here, we can make a better world. Ho’oponopono means “to rectify a mistake” or “to make what is correct to do”, but not as acting from purely cognitive or intellectual processes (namely, those which we wrongly believe in or which we want to take control of) but rather allowing the cumulative beliefs, resources, and experiences to just flow. Our conscious, our intellect, has not always the necessary resources to solve problems, but it definitely can manage them; yet, to manage does not mean to solve. When we practice Ho’oponopono, we request for the cleansing and purification of the source of the problems, which indeed are our own memories.
We neutralise that energy which we associate with a person, a place, or a thing, and consequently the guilt gets released and, in turn, the suffering. Knowing the “why” or “the source” of the problem is no longer required. The moment we notice something uncomfortable within us in relation to a person, a place, an event, or a thing, we set in motion our cleansing process.
Ho’oponopono employs a healing sequence that goes as follows:
“I am sorry; Please, forgive me; I love you; Thank you!”
This repetition initiates the emotional cleansing process. We may utter it completely or only those parts which are more significant to us at each given moment. (The intuitional process is the basis of Ho’oponopono.) But, what is the ultimate, revelational, transmuting meaning of these four statements, of these four “mantras”? When we say “I’m sorry”, we recognise that something (it is not necessary to know what) entered into us, into our body-mind unity. By repeating “I’m sorry”, we request the inner forgiveness for which that event has brought us. When we say “Forgive me”, we are not requesting somebody or something external to us to forgive us. It goes much further than that! Instead, we are moving those energies, our consciousness and our unconscious, to allow us to forgive ourselves. When we say “I love you”, we intend to unblock the energy, which is itself the problem, in order to transmute and channelise it into a stream of flowing energy which comes back to the “divine”, be it a deity, nature, humanity… “Thank you” or “I appreciate it” is the expression of our gratitude, our belief, faith, and certainty in that everything will find its solution for the benefit and wellbeing of all the people involved. From that moment on, we let things flow and thus wait to be inspired to do or not to do an act. This process of inner cleansing helps us and put us on the right track to find the answer.
Ho’oponopono is based on the fact that what we see as a shortcoming in others is also a part of ourselves, for all of us, to a certain extent, are one. Therefore, every healing is a self-healing and vice versa. As far as we improve ourselves by assuming our responsibility, the world consequently improves. Nobody else is required in this process; only we ourselves. By repeating these “mantras”, these healing statements, we are learning to relate ourselves with our ancestral subconscious mind, which is responsible for our capacity to recollect and for our memories. Our mind perceives and stores these memories, and then repeats them and breeds our beliefs, our programming, our inner dialogue.
When we relate to our subconscious mind, we free ourselves from all the negative burden and the recurring memories that bring about conflict, various problems, energy blockages, and all kinds of physical and psychic ailments that may be associated with it. Thinking daily of these statements, even for a moment, brings forth wellbeing and understanding and gets us ready to face any problem or situation in a positive manner. Repeating these words as we start our day, when we leave home, in any difficult situation that we find ourselves helpless or wrong or experience any negative feelings, or that we have any unpleasant memory allows us to clear away all the thoughts causing these sensations and transmute them into good energy and into healing, pleasant, and positive thoughts and emotions. Ho’oponopono’s tremendous transformational power is a truly helpful tool to face conflicts and problems as well as to employ in our own personal development in all walks of life. “Clean and erase, clear out and find your own peace! —Where?… Inside of you”. (Morrnah Simeona).